About David Joy

Dave Joy is a long time member of Rockville United Methodist Church,having attended as a child and through most of his adult life. He has been involved in many capacities at RUMC including Treasurer, Finance, SPRC, Sunday School Teacher, Youth Group Leader,Choir Member, Worship Chair, and most recently chair of Missions. His wife Bridget is also very active in the church. Dave has two children, Kady, who attends Fordham University and Daniel, who attends Ellington High School.

Most Needed Items for The HVCC Food Pantry

Hockanum Valley

Hockanum Valley

From the Hockanum Valley Community Council

The “Greatest Needed Foods” for the month of March are:

  • cans of pork and beans or baked beans
  • instant oatmeal and cereal
  • boxes of macaroni and cheese.


Hockanum Valley Community Council, Inc.
29 Naek Road, Suite 5a
Vernon, CT 06066
(860) 872-7727

Ingathering and food needs in our community

What is the difference between the two posts from Sue Bird below, the first being from the recent post in December’s newsletter and the second from October’s?

December:  A total of 314 items were donated to the Tri- Town Pantry since the November Newsletter was published. The “Greatest Needed Foods” for the month of December are: canned soup, canned tomatoes, pudding or fruit cups and apple or cranberry juice.

November:  A total of 69 items were donated to the Tri- Town Pantry since the October Newsletter was published. The “Greatest Needed Foods” for the month of November are: boxed stuffing, canned cranberry sauce, instant mashed potatoes, canned gravy and canned vegetables.


The answer I’m looking for is the number of items donated increased significantly as a result of our Thanksgiving ingathering.  The ingathering event each year is yet another vital mission of our our church, not only for what it provides for those in need in our community, but also the fact that it connects the children of our church to our collective missions.  We all know that children learn much more from doing than from being told.  I truly believe that what has motivated me to participate on so many community activities is rooted in my participation in activities such as the ingathering when I was a child.

The timing of the Ingathering was particularly appropriate this year.  Nearly 424,000 Connecticut residents whose Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program, or SNAP, benefits were cut on Nov. 1.  as discussed in the linked article:   Snap Cuts.  The need grows, yet our government is not stepping forward to assist, but is in fact retreating.  Therefore, our community and our church need to step up the these additional needs.  Wouldn’t it be nice if the 300 food items we collect in November could be matched (or even exceeded) in December!  How about in each month of 2014?  For those of you with children, involve them in this mission.  When you are at the grocery store with your children (I remember how fun this was!) ask them to take a couple of items off the shelf, have them place them on the conveyor belt, and ask the bagger (if any still exist) to put them in a separate bag.  Have the children carry them to the car, and have them bring them into church on Sunday and place them in the collection bin.  Let’s turn an annual teaching event into one that lasts year round.  And for those of us that are fortunate not to have to bring children to the grocery store, we are all children of God.  Follow these same steps, and perhaps you will find the child-like joy in your heart as well.

God is Good!

– Dave


30 Days of Gratitude – Day 25

 During our stewardship campaign, I was honored to stand in front of the congregation and give my thoughts on why the mission initiatives of the church are so important to me. Often times, we can only guess as to the impact of our deeds on the lives we touch. However, every once in a while, we get direct feedback on how these seemingly small acts on our part have huge impacts on others, as was the case with this year’s back to school clothes program (http://www.rockumchurch.com/2013/09/18/back-to-school/), where the recipient responded “I may not know a single thing about you, but I definitely know you’re my guardian angel. Great things just started happening once we learned of you! I will be paying your kindness forward when I’m able”.
I also discussed some of my personal challenges this year, and how we have a tendency to focus on the negative. It was therefore, very timely for me to see an article entitled 30 days of gratitude which suggested that we should acknowledge and reflect on one thing each day in November (rather than one day of Thanksgiving) that we are grateful for. My list for the first 25 days is below. Next time you see me, ask me for my list of my last 5.
• My Wife, Bridget • My community • Strangers
• My Daugher, Kady • My father • Music
• My Son, Daniel • My mother • Technology
• My church • Those that serve • Our Servicemen and women
• My job • The food on our table • Seasons
• My health • Laughter • Peace makers
• My country • Sunshine • Our environment
• My faith • My senses • Children
• My friends
30-Day-Gratitude-ChallengeFor each item, I am making a donation of $1 to the mission program of the church. I am requesting that ½ goes towards our mission shares and ½ towards a Stop Hunger Now packaging event that will be occurring in the spring, ideally at our church. Please take the time to consider what you are grateful for, and if you are so moved, think about how you, too, might “pay it forward”. As is written in Proverbs (11:24), “One gives freely, yet grows all the richer; another withholds what he should give, and only suffers want.”. God is good!
– Dave

Parent’s Day Off – Saturday Dec 7th


parents day off

On Saturday, December 7th the Rockville United Methodist Church will be providing free daycare from 9:00 a.m. to 12:00 noon.  Parents are invited to drop off their children (ages 3-11 years) and then spend the day shopping, preparing for the holidays, or enjoying some quiet time leading into the holidays.

This is a free service program, provided to our local community as our gift to you.  Holiday craft activities, games, holiday videos and snacks will be provided free for your children.

Please call the church office at 860-875-6562 for more information and to register your children.  Preregistration is required by Wednesday, December 4th.



30 Days of Gratitude – Stop Hunger Now

Take the 30 days of gratitude challenge

Take the 30 days of gratitude challenge

So, while at work today, when I should have been focusing on my companies monthly close process, I happened to see a Facebook post about “30 Days of Gratitude”.  With a quick google search, I came upon the following website: 30 Days of Gratitude.  By clicking on the “request” menu item, I downloaded a rather lengthy (50 page) PDF file which provides 30 days of “heartfelt gratitude exercises”.  When I got home (the company’s books won’t close on their own) I skimmed through the document, noticing it had a definite Yoga bent to it.  As someone who has taken some Yoga classes (and for those of you who know me, you are right, it wasn’t pretty) I can appreciate the mind-body connection.  The first exercise is dedicated to awakening, where they ask you to take a couple of deep breaths, settle, open you eyes and to look around.  They then pose the question “What do you see?”, but without putting a label on the things you see (a tree isn’t a tree but a miracle of colors, shapes, and character) and to just look with awe at everything.  Because I am reading this at 10:00 PM, I will save this exorcise for the early morning, when my mind is sharp!

In addition to the exercises, there are thought provoking comments such as “The only people with which you should try to get even are those that helped you!” or that according to aerodynamic studies, a bumblebee’s weight is too heavy for its tiny wings.

As we enter the month of Thanksgiving, we should consider giving thanks not for one day, but on every day of the month.  Perhaps if we can get in this habit, we can make every day Thanksgiving.  I would encourage you all to look at this website, downloading the document, and consider taking the journey with me.  I would also like to connect this to the mission of the church, and a particular event.  Early in 2014, we are hoping (and I know this hope will become a reality) to host a Stop Hunger Now packaging event.  If every day we take the time to focus on one thing that we can be thankful for, would we be willing to put a quarter or a dollar in a jar and donate it this great cause?  If so, we will be well on our way to share our gratitude with those less fortunate.   Please consider taking this 30 day journey with me.  Please add your thoughts or comments, and please, let me know what you are grateful for!



The Great Gallon Give – Stop & Shop Milk Donation Drive

What’s essential in our diets but missing from most food banks? Must Be The Milk

Fresh milk and dairy products make up less than 5% of American food bank inventories.

It’s time to think outside the can!

 The Great Gallon Give will be taking place from October 4-13th at Stop & Shop locations in Connecticut, Massachusetts and Rhode Island. 

Print a voucher from MustBeTheMilk.com or look for a voucher in the Stop & Shop dairy aisle to donate $4, the price of a gallon of milk, to a participating food bank.

Dance of the Blessed Spirits

At service on Sunday, 9/22/2013, Nat Woodruff blessed us with his flute playing during the Anthem, playing Orpheus and Eurydice, by Christoph Willibald Glück.  Prior to the start of the anthem, Karen Stearns read Nat’s “interpretation” of this piece, which is definitely worth sharing.  Also, to Nat’s point, if you want to view the opera, check out some of the options in YouTube for Orpheus and Eurydice.  – Dave Joy

Video Link(video)

A flute player’s note:


“Dance of the Blessed Spirits” is a ballet set in the Elysian Fields of pagan myth.  But I see it as imagining heaven.   The music I will play is in three parts.   The first I see as symbolic of beauty in the face of grief.   The second symbolizes for me the presence of grief in the face of beauty.   It has a different tempo, and a questioning sound.  Finally, the original theme returns, as though a conflict between grief and beauty is resolved in favor of beauty.   Ultimately, “Dance of the Blessed Spirits” makes me feel conscious, not only of the prospect of Heaven, but also of the happiness I’m allowed to feel here on earth.

Orpheus and Eurydice, by Christoph Willibald Glück, was first performed in Vienna in 1762, and then, with changes, 12 years later in Paris .   It can be hard to relate to opera, given the language barrier and the tendency to have unhappy endings.   But I want you to know that here is one you can watch on the internet, with subtitles, and the ending is not unhappy.  Orpheus and Eurydice are a young married couple, very much in love, separated by Euydice’s untimely death.   Cupid encourages Orpheus to charm his way into the underworld and bring her back.   Orpheus is able to do that due to his outstanding musical ability.   He has the sweetest voice of any mortal, and he plays a lyre, which is rather like a small harp.

 One of the choreographies of “Dance of the Blessed Spirits” has dancers symbolically welcoming and blessing a newcomer (Eurydice) in the first passage, and continuing in the second, while the presence of an interloper (Orpheus) is increasingly felt.  The interloper’s questions are not resolved, though, and the music returns to the first theme.  The heartbreak is not over for Orpheus and Eurydice.   Yet, I promise you, if you watch this opera, the ending will be happy!   If you would like to know more about Orpheus and Eurydice, please ask me sometime during coffee hour.   This musical experience has given me a great deal of happiness.   Happiness can be catching.  I hope you catch some.

Nat Woodruff

Mission Shares (part 1) – Areas suppoted

Having just come from our first Church Council Committee meeting after taking a couple of months off over the summer, we discussed our Church obligation relative to Mission Shares.  For those that are new to the Methodist Church, or perhaps those that just never familiarized themselves with what Mission Shares are, we thought this would be a good forum to provide some context as to what exactly are “Mission Shares”.  More importantly, we will provide some context as to why are they so important to the vitality of not only our local church, but the United Methodist Church and the world in general.

This is certainly more than can be covered in one blog entry, so over the next month or so, we will be providing additional information and context relative to Mission Shares.   For this entry, we will focus on the areas that Mission Shares support.

Basically, they provide support in three areas:  World Missions, New England Missions, and Ministry Support.  Each is detailed below.

Fund 1 – World Missions

Our connectional giving for mission and ministry beyond our Conference.
  • Provides funding to General Conference ministries through World Service, the Black College Fund, and Africa University
  • Supports the General Episcopal Fund and Episcopal office operation
  • Supports the Ministerial Education Fund
  • Supports 13 United Methodist seminaries
  • Supports ministerial education programs carried out by the General Board of Higher Education and Ministry Division of Ordained Ministry
  • 25 percent of the funds stay in the conference, providing scholarships for seminary education and ministerial continuing education

Fund 2 – New England Missions

Support for the work and missions of our New England Conference.
  • Provides salary and support for Camp Aldersgate, Camp Mechuwana, Rolling Ridge Conference and Retreat Center, and Wanakee United Methodist Center
  • Supports the Rhode Island United Methodist Association, Spiral Arts, Urban and Town & Country ministries, addressing the needs of the poor and marginalized in their communities
  • Funds campus ministries at Bridgewater State College
  • Provides support for our covenants with Iglesia de Christo in Nicaragua and The West Angola Conference
  • Congregational development work in forming new congregations and re-invigorating existing faith communities
  • Regional youth councils and CCYM
  • Provides salaries for conference resource staff

Fund 3 – Ministry Support

Ministry support and resources.
  • Assures pastoral leadership for congregations all across the New England Conference who are unable to provide an acceptable minimum salary
  • Provides salaries and office support for District Superintendents
  • Funds activities of the Board of Ordained Ministry as it provides oversight and support to candidates for ministry
  • Supports the legislative work of the General, Jurisdictional and Annual Conferences
  • Maintains historical records and documents of our churches
  • Maintains conference-provided housing for District Superintendents and conference staff
  • Supports the New England Conference United Methodist Center that provides ministry resources to local churches
  • Provides property/liability and workers compensation insurance coverage for conference camps/retreat center enabling campers fees to be lower
  • Provides salaries for conference administrative ministry staff

The next entry will cover Rockville United Methodist Church’s financial obligation to each of these three areas.